Have you ever noticed how many relationships in our lives are disposable? I think most people would disagree, as they feel that their connections hold more weight than that. But, I think the issue lies in the way that we use the word relationship. In today's vernacular relationship is assigned to things that are meaningful, or at least time-consuming. But, most people disregard the fact that any link between people or parties, no matter how minute, is actually a relationship.
So when I look at it that way - when I view my life through that filter - I am awed by the number (and caliber) of relationships that I've had. I have to say that my success rate seems a lot better that way. That being said, I don't usually plan for my connections to be transient. Generally speaking, I intend to keep people in my life. When they bring something positive to it, that is. That's why I have always been able to cut someone loose. There is nothing worse than a person who only takes; an emotional parasite, if you will. These folks aren't always bad, but they do manage to suck all of the oxygen out of a room. And if they do that, how the hell am I supposed to breathe?
When I reflect on the existence I've mostly enjoyed for the last 33 years or so, I know that things have changed. Friends have come and gone. I've lost and added family. The settings and circumstances are constantly in flux. And relationships are at the heart of that. But I can honestly say that I'm happy with the ones I have. And I don't regret the ones that are gone. Because, at the end of the day, the person that you are represents the years that you've lived and the relationships that you have represent the way that you've lived.
No comments:
Post a Comment