Thanks Chuck. Couldn't have said it better myself.

“If you don’t know what you want, you end up with a lot you don’t” - Chuck Palahniuk

“What we don't understand we can make mean anything.” - Chuck Palahniuk

Like most women who live a non-sequestered existence, I have several men in my life. They have varying levels of importance, but they all have one major thing in common. Frequently, I have absolutely no idea what they expect of me.

This weekend was loaded with prime examples of this. There's the guy from work, whom I finally got that drink with. He talks to me about things that seem important, but seems to reserve his real verve for other outlets. Then there’s the old friend who I seem to be acting as a homebase for. He moves on with his life, but uses me to remind him of what home is. Another winner is the guy whose kisses are fantastic, whether brief or not. He seems as confused by the unsure nature of our association as I am, but in the end he's really calling all the shots. And our last entrant is the male friend who likes talking to me so much he'll converse about everything and nothing at all. He seems to be unaware that our talks are so fulfilling, not because of some fluke of personality, but because we are very much alike (though, very much different, to be honest.).

So, the common thread that runs through the tapestry of my relationships with these men is that I feel strongly enough about them that sometimes I feel I know what they need. But, rarely am I informed what it is they truly want. Or what it is they want in regards to me. In some cases, I know what I've been told, but I don’t think I’m getting the complete story. And I am not one of those women who only hears what she wants and patently refuses to believe when the man tells them something they don’t want to hear. I guess this is yet another complaint about men’s vagueness - I just never realized that it was across the scope of all male / female relationships.