I had just written a long (and good) post about this, but then my stupid phone froze and I lost it, but I want to get some of this down before I forget.
Men and women do not speak the same language. The words are the same, but the context is completely different. We can't understand each other because we come at things from cross purposes. Generally, women run things through an emotional filter and men put everything under a motive microscope. We could be saying the exact same words to each other but they will be comprehended in entirely different ways. Then we respond after hearing it our way and the other person is completely confused and comes back with their own spin on things. It's what leads to these invariably frustrating circular conversations that we have and even more those conversations where the other person just isn't grasping your point. Sadly, we just aren't able to turn off our overly complicated thinking, and just deal with the words at hand. Until we can do that we will continue to have these unnecessarily complex conversational issues.
So next time you're talking to someone of the opposite sex, try and separate what you think they mean from what they actually said. If they do the same maybe we can make it out of this man - woman tower of Babel.
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