Ring, ring
Me (minding my own business): Hello.
Ex-Boyfriend (calling out of nowhere): Hey, how are you?
Me (unsure of who I’m talking to): Fine … Who am I speaking to?
Ex (having the audacity to sound offended that I don’t recognize the voice): This is blah.*
Me: Oh.
Ex: So, what’s up? What you been up to?
Me: Not much.
Ex: How’s your people?**
Me: Doing well.
Ex: Cool.
Extended silence
Ex: Damn, why you so tight?
Me: I’m not tight, I just don’t see what we have to talk about.
Ex: Well hell, I was just calling to see how you’ve been.
Me: I’m doing well.
More silence.
Me: Well okay, I gotta go.
Ex: A’ight girl. I’ll talk to you later.
Me: That’s not really necessary.
Ex: ... Alright ...
Me: Bye.
Ex: Bye?.
* Name changed to protect my peace of mind.
** Note that the terrible grammar is not my fault. This is actually how it was said to me.
So as I typed this conversation it all of a sudden sounded a lot harsher than it felt like at the time. But, the thing is, I really don’t see what I have to talk about with an ex. Like, what am I supposed to say? I’m not bitter or pissed about the end of the relationship, I’ve just moved on. I don’t feel the need to go back there with him. And what the hell is he calling me for anyway? We broke up ages ago, and we don’t have the kind of complex history that would necessitate us keeping in touch. I should mention that I have had exchanges along these lines with at least three different exes. It just boggles the mind for me.
I don’t know, am I being unduly harsh? Should I engage in polite chit-chat, or is it perfectly acceptable to just cut this conversation off at its knees?
If an ex called you out the blue..he was thinking about you...thought enough to want to call to say "Hello". Alot of times there's some regret that you're not with that person anymore, something going on in there lives that makes them think back and be like "Damn...I wonder how your girl doing."
ReplyDeleteI'm speaking from experience here cause I have done it...Something too may have triggered it, a song, a scent, or just the random thought.
I'm looking at the text message that I just received as to why ya'll broke up and he probably had some regret...Was at a crossroad at the time and looking back on the situation now wants to reach out to you to validate himself for whatever wrong he has done you.
Ponce